How do I get my boyfriend to stop gaming so much?

I'm actually jealous of the XBox. Does his excessive game playing have anything to do with me?

How do I get my boyfriend to stop gaming so much?
Sigh. You've asked one of the eternal unspoken female questions. I'm not sure there's a perfect answer to it, though I believe the answer is both yes and no.





From my perspective as a guy, a gamer, and a husband, my desire to play games has very little to do with any shortcomings of my wife. i just enjoy it, it's entertaining and lets me break away from my real life from time to time. I also enjoy spending time with my wife, and don't play excessively (though I did go through a period where I played World of Warcraft about 30 hours a week...keep him away from that game if you think he's already playing excessively!). How much is he playing, anyway?





i've got a friend whose wife limits his gaming, even though she bought him the xbox. And he resents her for it. And I resent her for it. So please don't do that. Instead I'd suggest trying other strategies like (1) finding games you can play together...he would love you for that... (2) making appointments for you two to go out and do things outside to do stuff...if he misses those because he wants to game it's writing on the wall... (3) suggesting that maybe he should have a 'gaming night' once a week with his friends (while it seems like it might be the opposite strategy of what you want, it might help to contain his playing by implying that the other six nights are yours...). Anyway good luck.
Reply:Give him anal.
Reply:yes but no but perhaps my answer no
Reply:Most likely not. I'm not familiar with many people who try to escape reality through video games these days, and if it was you he has a problem with, he probably would've broken up with you already. Simple matter is: Gaming is fun, and since he has an X-Box, which comes with Live, it's even more fun.





If you want to get him to spend more time with you, you should probably try to get into the hobby alongside him. Of course, this is not an easy task for most non-gamers. As a bonding exercise, you could try getting him to teach you, but I only recommend it if he's a patient person. You could teach yourself, but that takes a bit of patience on your part.





What you should NOT do however is present ultimatums. Making him choose between you and gaming is a surefire way to a bad road and a big fight.
Reply:is he in high school? if not, then he is too immature to be in a relationship. my husband knows that i am bored by it, so he plays when i'm not home. on the other hand, a friend of his uses his tax money to buy the consoles, where as he should be using it for savings for things he and his wife need. some people just never grow up.
Reply:I recommend breaking up with him. Guys who neglect their wives or girlfriends for games are usually deadbeats. I know of one guy who is responsible for losing their house because of stuff like this.
Reply:leave him alone .........get off his nuts
Reply:first of all, get that thought out of your head, his gaming has nothing to do with you. secondly, he plays games for a reason, maybe to feel connected to other people (via 'xbox live'), or to blow off steam after a hard days work (or a stressful encounter eg. a fight [not nececcarily physical]), what you have to work out is the reason why he is gaming so much, maybe he likes gaming a bit too much or he has nothing better to do with his free time (but judging by how concerned you sound, he should have better things to occupy himself with eg. being more attentive to you and your concerns/needs) or he just can't think of anything to do, in order to solve this problem i suggest you encourage him to stop playing games and give him entertaining alternatives, like cycling, archery, an assorted team sport or a martial art...you never know.